Do you recognize this?
* It’s important what other people think about you.
* It’s important that you look good for other people.
* It’s important people think you’re a nice person.
* It’s important to get other people’s approvement on your ideas.
If you say “Yes” on all of this, it might be time to change You ;-).
Because it’s important that you can live with the Freedom of being Yourself, no matter what other people think, no matter how other people judge, no matter what other people feel about it.
Is it hard?
Yes! It’s hard to start changing Yourself and live without the approval or opinion of others, as we are so used to live that way and our environment tells us to live that way.
Is it good for you to live that way?
No, it itsn’t. As it’s much more important for you to be happy with whatever you’re doing or whatever you like to do. Or even whatever you like to wear as clothes or hairstyles.
Because if you think about it…….when you have an idea and you ask someone or several people about their opinion and you get only negative response…..will you still carry on with your idea and develop it? Most of the people will say No now ;-).
So, did it really make you happy when you called of your idea or plan? You’ll probably regret later, maybe years later, that you never did it or didn’t carry on with it.
And that’s why it’s important that we start to live from out of ourselfs, with our own ideas and plans, what we like and what we do or what we want to do, no matter what other people say or think about it!
Believe me, I’ve been there ;-). For many years it was véry important what other people, or even my family, would say or think about my ideas or my way of living. Years later when I made the change to nót listen anymore to other people’s opinions or judgements and just do what Í wanted to do and how Í wanted to live my life, it made me so much happier! :-)
Is it still always easy for me?
No, it’s not always easy, but when I hold on to my believes, to my ideas and just move on with it, if finally makes me realize that I’m happy for moving on with it, otherwise I would have missed out on a lót!
The funny thing is also, when “they” see and realize that you do your own thing even though they told you to do different…..after a while, they just accept ;-). As they can’t “touch” or “hit” you anymore and, most important, not “control” you anymore.
Because that’s what it really is. When you let other people decide what you do or how to live your life…..Théy are in control of Yóur Life, not You! And that’s nót the way how it should be ;-).
You have the ríght on your own Life, how to live it, what to do, what to wear, how to look like etc. And if people réally Love you, then they will Love you for who you réally are :-).
Don’t change because others like to see you that way, as it’s not you :-).
So, go out and live your Own Life!
And remember to Live in the Now, Let Go of the Past and don’t worry about the Future ;-).